Son Wants to Come Uninvited for Rosh Hashanah
What is the best way to stop our grown son who wants to come to us for a Rosh Hashanah meal when we don’t want him here? We love him dearly and unconditionally, but he is eccentric and can be embarrassing at times. He was a difficult child to raise, and he is stubborn and feels entitled and does not easily take no for an answer. He is very argumentative when we try to dissuade him and we feel powerless to stop him. He doesn’t care deeply about following Torah laws that require him to respect us. Getting ready for Rosh Hashanah should not have to be like this.
The situation is, for one of our meals, we want to have a couple over, and we want them to have a good impression of us. We fear he may be detrimental to that very important impression. Besides all his other traits I described, he is highly outgoing and wants to meet these people. We think this would be a terrible idea at this time. He says he plans to show up, even if he is not invited. He is an independent adult who is successful in his professional life and we cannot punish him if he does this to us.
What advice do you have as a rabbi to keep him away?