Mother Wants No Relationship

Question

I know according to the Torah, we are supposed to obey our parents. But does that mean that if they do not want to have a relationship with us, we are required to respect that wish and not ever contact them?
I am adopted. My adoptive parents gave me a very nice upbringing. But they have both died. I did a DNA test earlier this year. My biological mother was not on it, but I found a biological cousin. My cousin wasn’t very welcoming but told me who my biological mother is and gave me her phone number but warned me that she would not warm up to me.
I called my biological mother. As my cousin told me to expect, my biological mother was rude to me. She spoke for under two minutes in which she admitted she had me and gave me up and said that’s how she wanted it to be. She acted like I violated her by calling her as a stranger. And before slamming the phone, she told me never to call her again.

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Answers

  1. Sadly, it seems that the correct way for you to honor your mother right now is by doing as she asks. If she wants no relationship with you then you should not pursue trying to create one. For now, it seems that the only real recourse you have is to pray that she changes her mind and, at some point, she initiates contact with you.

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