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My grandson had a Bar Mitzvah and I was surprised that I was the third in the line, after the Shul Rabbi and a Friend Rabbi, to get an Aliyah as my son-in-law decided. From where I come from, the Grandfather gets it after the Kohain and the Levy, but not after Rabbis not related to the family. What do you say?
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Hello Rabbi, My wife and I are having a bit of a disagreement. I don’t know what right thing to do. My question is: at what age can I take my daughter to visit her grandfather’s gravesite? A little background: I was born in Russia. I moved to America when I was 5. Most Russia Jews are not very religious but share a lot of values and traditions. One thing I was raised to believe is that you don’t take children with living parents to cemeteries, unless the child is old enough or married. The issue is my wife’s father who passed 6 months ago, and my wife is only 25. She is having a hard time with the passing. Now, after 6 months, my daughter who is 7 years old is starting to get sad and cries at random times. When we ask her what’s wrong, she says that she misses grandpa. My wife thinks that taking her to visit her grandpa at the cemetery will help, and stop our daughter from having those moments of sadness/crying. I grew up with a tradition to not bring children to cemeteries and am very uncomfortable with this idea. Plus, I think this will not help, and may actually make it worse. I think we should find other ways to deal with those moments. I would love some advice and guidance in this matter. Thank you

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Hello Rabbi, My wife and I are having a bit of a disagreement. I don’t know what right thing to do. My question is this, at what age can I take my daughter to visit her grandfathers gravesite? A little background. I was born in Russia. I moved to America when I was 5. Most Russia Jews are not very religious but share a lot of values and traditions. One thing I was raised to believe is that you don’t take children with living parents to cemeteries, unless the children is old enough or married. The issue is my wife’s father passed 6 months ago and my wife is only 25. She’s having a hard time with the passing. Now after 6 months my daughter who is 7 years old is starting to get sad and cry at random time, when we ask her what’s wrong she says that she misses grandpa. My wife thinks it will help and stop our daughter from having those moments of sadness/crying. I growing up not bring kids to cemeteries and very uncomfortable with this idea. Plus I think this will not help, may actually make it worse. I think we should find other ways to handling / deal with those moments. I would love some advice and guidance in this matter. thank you

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Can you do sitting shiva for your grand ma or grand ante even if you do not stay at the place where she lived? My grand ante passed away last Sunday, so 8 days ago, and I believe has been buried today or tomorrow

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Dear Rabbi, I heard there is a custom to light a special, long-burning candle on one’s parent's yahrzeit (date of the anniversary of passing). Why? Thanks.
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