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Hi, I wanted to hear the Rav's opinion on what should be the reason that a hashkafically solid person wants to get married. And how do we know if our motivation to do so is aligned with the Torah? Thank you

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I have just moved to a new city for a professional opportunity and joined a congregation that apparently hired its young rabbi very recently. I heard that he only got his ordination this past spring. I know for sure he is single. I have attended services several times and I have an extreme crush on him! So much that the very thought of him is interfering with me having kavana during my davening. But I feel I cannot approach him directly and talk about my attraction to him. I don’t know whether or not he is ‘in the market’ And I am too shy to dare initiate a conversation with him myself. He greets me briefly most of the time I see him, but not any differently than he greets other women here. The way he does, it seems like he’s doing it more like it’s a job to him than a social experience. Any suggestions on how I can approach this situation?

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I’m in an awkward unexpected position. I am scheduled to be the maid of honor at the wedding of my best friend since elementary school who is not Jewish. Even though we are different religions, we consider each other to be sisters. She made a point of scheduling the wedding on Saturday night after Shabbat ends so I can be there. It is going to be a civil ceremony. I am all ready for this wedding, having bought a dress and had my name printed on a program all at the nonrefundable cost of hundreds of dollars paid by her parents. She is looking forward so much to having me in that role. Just this past week, I learned to my surprise that the man she is marrying, who I have met infrequently because of his busy work schedule, is actually a Jew according to Jewish law, even though he doesn’t consider himself one. I found out by accident that his mother is a Jew who was brought up Jewish and converted to Catholicism when she married his father. His immediate family actually practices very little religion at all and he considers himself an atheist. In other words, this wedding is an intermarriage. I never would have guessed he was Jewish because he doesn’t have a Jewish name or looks. They way I found out is I attended a party held by his family and was surprised to see other Orthodox Jews there. One of them told me she is his cousin and explained how they are related. Not just that, but she says she will be at the wedding and doesn’t mind attending and they are getting kosher food for her too. What am I supposed to do here? Can I still go to this wedding? What should I tell my friend?

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Dear Rabbi Can a married woman do tantric massage with a female therapist ? I am the husband and I agree with that Thank you

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Dear Rabbi, I hope you can advise me. Someone in school is constantly insulting me. I’m fat, I’m stupid, I’m a loser, blah blah blah. What does Judaism teach about how I should respond to such insulting behavior? Thank you so much!

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I earn all the money for the household at the present time, but my wife does most of the food shopping. Very often, my wife buys food that she considers to have bought for herself. She charges it on a credit card account that we share jointly, then I pay the bills. She then complains when I eat any of ‘her’ food that she considers that she has bought for herself, even though the money I earned is paying for 100% of it. Is it considered stealing if I eat food that she considers hers, even as I am the one paying?

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Hi Rabbi. I heard that Judaism teaches to judge others favorably, which to me sounds similar to not really judging them at all. What does this principle mean and would you give me an example? Thanks!