Wedding in America or in Israel
Question
Erev Tov
My question: I live in Miami and I am waiting for my residence that can take more than 2 years. I met my zivug. He is from Israel. He is a US citizen and lives in Miami too. He wants to marry in Eretz Israel because his mother who lives there is 90 years old, it is a high risk if she travels because her heart and his whole family lives also there. I cannot leave the United States at least in case we marry by the civil law before and wait between 3 and 6 months to obtain a permit to travel and marry by the jupa there. If we get married by law here, we have to live together because the immigration office investigates outsiders who marry US citizens, to find out if they are fake or real. I know that civil marriage is only halfway to the real marriage that is jupa ... I love HaShem and I want to do the right thing, but I don't want to disappoint my boyfriend asking him to marry me here. and getting married in Israel is also my dream.
what should I to do?
Todah Rabah ve brajot