My family has a foundation for a son that died young. This foundation is in his name and helps Jewish children. If a friend's father died and they designated three places to donate in his honor BUT I choose to donate to my family foundation in the father's memory, is that okay? I have always thought it is okay to donate in memory of someone, no matter where you contribute. I thought it is okay to plant a tree in Israel, or give to your favorite charity or ....if you want, give to who the family designates. Whatever you do is a mitzvah. Am I wrong??