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Moses died on the seventh of Adar. The Talmud proves this as follows- 1. In Deuteronomy 34:8 we read that the Jews mourned for thirty days following Moses' death. 2. The book of Joshua begins with G‑d's command to bring the Jewish people across the Jordan River. G‑d specifies that they are to cross in three days time. This instruction was given immediately after Moses died, meaning at the earliest possible opportunity after his death. This would have been following the thirty days of mourning. 3. In Joshua 4:19 we are told that the Jews crossed the river on the tenth of Nissan. If we subtract the three days between the command and actual crossing, plus the thirty days of mourning, we find the date of Moses' passing is the seventh of Adar. Your answer to one of my previous questions was that the month of ADAR always has 29 days, except when there are two months of Adar, then the first one always has 30 days. My understanding is that Sheloshim for 30 days starts after burial. Am I correct that Moses died and was buried on the same day? Did the Jews start mourning for Moses on the same day as he died? Thanks.

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My mother passed away in September of 2015 and is interred in an above-ground vault. I know it is customary to mark a grave 1 year after the burial with an unveiling. However, I have read that waiting the year is done to allow the ground to settle before placing a headstone or marker so it doesn't sink. Since she is not in the ground, is it still appropriate to wait 1 year or can it be marked sooner?

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If a soldier is missing in action, since there is no body but there is still a chance that he is alive, what is the rule regarding sitting shiva and a funeral service? Especially if his parents think that he might still be alive?
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Shalom, I am a Kohen. After Shabbat I went to visit a neighbor’s house for the first time. While I was there I noticed a cabinet with photos of a woman and a card with her name, photo and year of birth and death. I walked right by it to the dining room. At the time I thought absolutely nothing of it. There were so many other things on my mind and it passed my innocent mind. Later I overheard another friend of mine being told to stop bouncing a ball in the residence. He was told: “Oh you shouldn’t bounce balls nearby the altar!” It became clear to me that cabinet with the photos was turned into a type of altar and shrine to her. This seems wrong to me. Especially as a Kohen. I have never had this happen to me and I had no clue what to do. I want to do the right thing and not lie to myself or turn a blind eye. Rabbi, how should I view this situation?    
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