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Hi Rabbi. I heard that Judaism teaches to judge others favorably, which to me sounds similar to not really judging them at all. What does this principle mean and would you give me an example? Thanks!

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Can a single, unmarried man have a legitimately recognized child with a surrogate? Or will the child still be considered a bastard?

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The other day, an acquaintance who is an annoying person who I don’t enjoy interacting with, asked me for the address and phone number of a dear friend who is a recent widow so she could send a condolence card. I told this acquaintance I would not give out my friend’s personal info without her permission. My plan was to first ask my friend for permission. But before that happened, the acquaintance became extremely furious at me and feels insulted. I later told my friend (the recent widow) what happened and she said she also considers this woman annoying. She says this woman has caused her lots of trouble in the past and she is glad I didn’t give out her contact info. Since this acquaintance feels insulted by me, am I required to ask her for forgiveness before Yom Kippur? Frankly, she is someone I’d rather not contact at all because she has a habit of bothering people, which I’ve known about for a long time and others apparently have too.

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Hi, I was in a restaurant the other day, and a person came up to me and told me I shouldn’t be eating there because it’s not kosher. What chutzpah! Shouldn’t he mind his own business? I was really taken aback.

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I have found out that my husband had a very promiscuous past, he slept with 40 women, made sex tapes, and went to special massage parlous. He and I are greatly in love and when I get upset he talks lovingly and says he is sorry and tries to comfort But the fact and the images that keep running like a reel in my head and leaving me in a state of anger and betrayal won’t seem to go away. Should I leave him? Forgive him? I do not feel like I want to be intimate with him when he has done this act with so many other women. Could you please help and give some sort of advice or wisdom Am I in the wrong for bringing it up time again?

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My mother is coming for a visit soon. She is anti-orthodox and does not dress tznius. At first this didn’t bother me, but as my girls are getting older, I think it would be a bad influence for them to see their grandmother dressed in this manner. They are at an age in which they will notice what she wears and want to imitate her, but they are still too young to understand or have this explained to them. I kindly asked my mother to dress tznius around her granddaughters. She then lost her temper and screamed about how disrespectful I am to demand that of her and that I should be ashamed of myself. My mother is already embarrassed by the fact that I became orthodox. She thinks I joined a cult and that I’m brainwashing her grandchildren. It’s been 12 years now and she still has not forgiven me for choosing this path.

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Supposed a married man’s wife wants him to spend time with her and his failure to do so could threaten the well-being of his marriage to her. At the same time, one or both of his parents want him to devote his attention to them to have their pressing needs met. He can only please one or the other. The scenario comes up suddenly and there is no time to ask a rabbi the moment it happens. Who is the man supposed to give priority to?

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I know that if a child is born out of wedlock it is considered a mamzer. If it is conceived out of wedlock does it hold the same status? If the child is conceived out of wedlock and the parents subsequently marry before it is born does the child still have the status of mamzer? Thank you in advance for your reply.