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Hello! To preface this, I must say that I myself am not Jewish. Rather, I am emailing you on behalf of my younger cousin, who is. I apologize if this isn't the kind of questions that you usually handle. My cousin, Hannah, is 10. Her mother was Jewish, while Hannah's father (my uncle) is not (he's agnostic, most of our family is agnostic or some denomination of Christian). However, Hannah's mother unfortunately died when she was quite young, leaving my uncle to raise her alone. Hannah has expressed that she feels estranged from her Jewish heritage, and very much wants to connect. Our family is fully supportive of this, but also at a bit of a loss on how to help her in this. She has no immediate Jewish relatives, and dropping her off at the nearest synagogue once a week alone makes her father uncomfortable. Would it be appropriate for him to accompany her? Another concern is her bat mitzvah. It is our understanding that a proper bat mitzvah involves a lot of planning on the parent's part, and a lot of studying for Hannah to prepare. Could you offer some insight into how we can best support her and help her reconnect with her culture (and possibly religion)? For reference, we live in Colorado in the U.S..
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Dear Rabbi, one of my children complains that I favor his brother over him and am nicer to his sibling. I play favorites of his brother over him. I’m not aware that I do this. Do Jewish teachings say anything about playing favorites? Thanks!

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Shalom aleichem Rabbi Lauffer. Thank you for answering my last question. In "Thursday Nights with Rabbi Avigdor Miller Vol. 1" on page 166 Rabbi Miller says "I know a case, in Williamsburg, where a woman made a very big mistake going to a chiropractor. He was somewhat free with her, but she said to the rabbonim nothing happened. The rabbonim discovered that there was something that would seem nothing to her, but in the halacha it was more than nothing. It was something serious. She had to take a divorce from her husband...It's a tragedy, but it can't be helped. But once she committed adultery, it was over-and adultery doesn't mean what you think adultery means, even if it may seem quite innocent. It's the same as adultery." What, besides actual intercourse, constitutes adultery according to the halacha? Thanks a lot.

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I am looking for the truth. First most of my family is Mormon I have been a Christian, a Salvationist, a Lutheran, but mostly I believe I am lost. I understand not all Jewish believe Jesus is the Messiah, I do. I have recently been studying with the Jehovah Witness. I have become more interested in what is written in the Bible. I have learned more about the Bible then I ever had, God promises an Eternal Kingdom full of peace love joy kindness. For all who believe in him and walk a righteous path. There is no doubt in my mind God is the true one. I am confused about my feelings toward somethings but I have faith that God will grant me my answers. My trouble is I was scared, I have faith, I have the bible, but I felt so alone with so many religions around me. I was a lost soul trying to find the truth, I knew I need something real life " here and now" to help me. I found a personal living "hero", This person has not been put before God, I have only called them like Jesus, because there is only one Jesus. This person is not my friend or family, just a good person who makes people smile, not a comedian. That's my life dream goal to make someone smile truly. To bring joy to someone is the greatest gift, means you are sharing love. Which is my desire, due to a resent bible study with the Jehovah Witness I am starting to question myself, I am not perfect, I have lots of confusion, I don't want the eternal promise because It doesn't feel right yet "like in my heart". To the point I now feel as if I have to chose between God or people I care about and love. I never thought that's what God wants, I am on the brink of depression with this. I don't know what I'd call myself if someone asked me, but I believe in the Bible. I am reaching out to you because I need to know, I understand about hanging with the right crowd and the wrong crowd. The line between right and wrong is solid, but the line between two sisters who are not bad people who work hard try to do the right thing, is it right to just cut her out of your life. My question is should I have to leave people in my life to worship God, and why do I have to leave people I love (makes the eternal promise less appealing if I am the only one I know there)?

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Dear Rabbi, I am aware during this month — and especially as we get closer to Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur — we should try to fix any bad relationship with family or others. However, there is a person I just cannot bring myself to forgive. Can you help me out here? Thanks Rabbi!