Personal Question
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Hi. I have a question on a topic I cant really ask anyone cause its not really discussed much. I hope it is not offensive in any way. I am talking to a guy who is a ba’al teshuva and he is generally very frum and strict in almost all areas. However he has been telling me some things that do not sit very well with me about what is allowed in a frum intimate relationship. He claims that “asheknazi halacha says it is ok to ejaculate into any orifice of her body” in other words, oral and anal sex are perfectly acceptable. He says wasting seed is seed that you “spill” but these things are not spilling. He also says that this is not a leniency, just a “stam ruling” and that this type of behavior is perfectly normal and very common between very frum couples. He also says that they do not tell you this in kallah classes. He also claims that some orthodox rabbis will even give a psak that it is ok to watch porn with your wife, but he does admit that that is a big leniency. I still find it hard to believe that any frum rabbi would tell a frum couple that they can watch pornography though. I really need the straight truth on this. I feel like something isn’t right in what he is telling me, but maybe I am wrong. I would really appreciate knowing what the deal is here. Thanks a lot.