A SERUV IS ISSUED FOR FAILURE TO SUBMIT FINANCIAL DISPUTES BEFORE A BETH DIN RATHER THAN A SECULAR COURT.WHY IS IT THAT SERUVS ARE ENFORCED ROUTINELY IN MATRIMONIAL CASES AGAINST A MAN WHEN HE FAILS TO SUBMIT BEFORE A BETH DIN IN THOSE MATTERS BUT NEVER AGAINST A WOMAN WHEN SHE FAILS TO AGREE TO GO TO BETH DIN?PARTICULARLY IN CASES WHERE A HUSBAND GIVES HIS WIFE A GET AND WANTS THE FINANCIAL ISSIES OF THE MARRIAGE ADJUDICATED IN A BETH DIN IN ACCORDANCE WITH JEWISH LAW.WHEN THE WIFE IS MESAREV LADIN AND CONTINUES TO PROSECUTE HER HUSBAND IN THE SECULAR COURTS WHY ISNT COMMUNITY PRESSURE PUT ON THE WIFE IN THE WAY IT IS PUT ON A MAN?PLEASE ADVISE

my wife and i are bal tsechuva. i recently was told that oral sex is forbidden. this is difficult because this is the way i please my wife. however she has researched web sites that state that it is not forbidden as long as i do not waste my seed and we both enjoy it. can i perform oral sex on my wife?

Can you recommend a good book containing the midrash on Genesis?

My mother-in-law wants to give me a set of Cornimg Ware pots which she says she hasn't used in over 20 years. I keep a kosher home, but she does not. Can I use her pots? Thank you.