I have been to several orthodox weddings lately and noticed that there seem to be a lot of people crashing them. I have not seen this to the same degree at any other weddings.
First, a lot of people who are not invited come to the ceremony only. That’s not unusual. But I’ve also seen many more people come to dance and/or socialize, but they don’t eat anything and they view it that they are not stealing food or putting a burden of cost on anyone. For example, one wedding I went to recently had seating room for 120 guests (15 tables of 8 each), but there had to be close to 300 people dancing.
I’ve seen others come uninvited and they either share a meal with an invited guest they know or take an empty spot at the meal of a no-show. I’ve seen that happening at the exact tables where I have sat.
And there are people who come for the cocktail hour and feel they are not stealing because there is lots of food just being handed out that would otherwise go to waste.
Before I became friendly with so many orthodox people, I went to a lot of non-orthodox and non-Jewish weddings where if anyone crashed, it was usually just a single digit number of people. But I’ve never seen anything like what I’ve seen in the orthodox community here.
Is there any reason for this?