Pesach: Ashkenazi Eating in Sephardi Home
My wife is Sefardi and eats kitniyot on Pesach. Even though she is married to me, an Ashkenazi, she still insists on eating kitniyot. I don’t stand in her way as long as she doesn’t contaminate our Pesach dishes. She has dry kitniyot snacks in our home, and she eats cooked kitniyot over the homes of other Sefardim in our community.
She has no relatives who live in town. For the first time ever, we are invited to spend the latter two days of the holiday with her parents. Not only do they eat kitniyot on Pesach, but they live in a mostly Sefardi community and lack an understanding of the scope of Ashkenazi dietary restrictions.
At their meals, they will be eating a lot of kitniyot. Even their non-kitniyot foods are prepared on keilim used for kitniyot. And they will be making some dishes that might have kitniyot ingredients, such as oils, and it won’t be evident. They speak with heavy accents and it’s hard to understand when I ask them what is in their recipes. They are nice, kind, loving people, but difficult to communicate with. What do I do about this?