Marriage

Hello - My sister's wedding is in a week and she would like me to lead a prayer for peace (in regards to Israel and the world) during the ceremony. Would Oseh Shalom be appropriate for this? Thank you!

I have been married for 35yrs. I almost walked out of my wedding. I did not find my wife very attractive and had concerns about her personality & character. I wanted to date other girls but had lost a parent recently and was not emotionally ready. I married out of fear not faith. As is we have three children. My relationship with them is decent but could be better if it wasn't for marital issues. I'm tired of the hurtful exchange. I have not been intimate with my wife for over 15 yrs including my honeymoon. I am 60 yrs old now. What to do? I have thought of separating but remaining friends and be there for one another. But don't know how to go about it, not sure if right thing to do and not much money.

Is it true that in ancient Israel a groom was able to use a representative (for example a friend or a brother) in a wedding ceremony, if he himself was unable to attend it due to a journey or something like that?

We do not have a sotah ritual today. But I feel I have reasonable suspicion that my wife cheated on me decades ago before we had our kids. In the absence of the sotah ritual, what is a man supposed to do to find out the truth? Or his he supposed to inquire at all? I am nervous about confronting my wife directly. I have never been jealous, but I just want know. In our first two years of marriage, my wife hung out often with a man she considered her ‘best friend.’ I fully believed he was a platonic friend and approved and trusted her, even though they had dated before and decided not to marry each other. She went over his apartment often and they watched movies together as I worked until late in the evening. Then I got my dream job and we moved away and she lost all but occasional contact with him. We made new friends, started a family, and she stopped contacting him. I have had many happy years of marriage ever since. We have heard that he died about 10 years ago. If my suspicions are ever confirmed true, I have no intention of ending our marriage under any circumstances, regardless of anyone’s opinion. I know several couples who divorced over adultery. But I am the type to forgive, and I have already forgiven others for things that hurt me much more, and I will remain married to my beloved wife until death do us part. I just want to know one way or another for peace of mind’s sake. I would like to know what approach we typically use in Jewish tradition today to ascertain the truth when there is suspicion. We conceived no children during this period of time, but soon after we moved away, we did. I know for sure our firstborn daughter, who is now happily married with children of her own, is my biological child and not his because we have taken DNA tests.

I dont spend quality tireza with my hasband, even when i do its not quality.

Is a Kohen allowed to marry a Jewish woman who lost her virginity to him before marriage?

I would like to know if this wedding band is acceptable for a Jewish wedding

If you are married to someone happily, does that mean your spouse is definitely your bashert? Is it really possible that one can have a happy lifelong marriage to someone (Jewish and otherwise permitted of course) and feel like they have everything they want in a spouse with the same feelings mutually returned, yet their spouse they married was not their bashert and they didn’t know it?